Dear Abby: I recently attended a baby shower for a dear high school friend and his wife. The day after, she posted a slideshow on Facebook titled "Thanks for All Our Gifts" with a picture of each gift and who gave it. She has had numerous miscarriages and held this shower at five months, knowing the baby is not yet at a viable stage.
While I feel sympathy for her, and especially for her husband who desperately wants to be a father, I think this is a bid for attention. I am disgusted at how she seems to be bragging about her haul, yet prepping everyone to give her an outpouring of support if there is another tragic loss. Who does this?
Dear Speechless: Most baby showers are given four to six weeks before the due date. However, it's possible that your friend's wife had hers at five months because she's excited that her pregnancy seems to be progressing well and she's thinking positively about the outcome.
As to her method of thanking everyone for the gifts, she may never have been taught that individual thank-you notes should have been sent to each guest. Because it is clear that you are closer to the husband than the wife, perhaps you should tip him off that it's still not too late for them to do the right thing and suggest he help her with them.
Dear Abby: My child's best friend has a parent who is constantly late (to the tune of hours, not minutes). I understand that the child is not at fault, but my child's feelings are hurt by the blatant disregard of the other parent's tardiness. How do I help this parent (whom I adore otherwise) understand that disappointing my child through poor time management is not acceptable to our family without hurting both children?
Dear Clock Watcher: If you haven't told the parent that it is hurtful when your child is kept waiting for hours for a play date, you should. And if that doesn't bring the desired result, your child should be encouraged to move on to some other activity and/or another companion.
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